Tuesday, 3 January 2017

Just Say No



Hello Everyone and Happy New Year to you all.

I don't know about you, but, as the New Year rolls in for me I am usually too full of turkey, cheese boards and continental meat and deli platters to make any rational decisions and this is surely why everyone makes the solemn promise to themselves around the 1st January that they will finally become a gym bunny and have a body like a Russian ballet dancer by February... not me, no no, as I sit here biting into some spare yule log I found hidden in my car, I'm going to make a slightly more attainable goal for my tubby backside, Just Saying No.


The big thing for the last few years has been 'Just Say Yes', partly brought on no doubt by a post written by Zoella about her struggles with anxiety and the impact this had on her life. This was an inspiration to many and the idea of 'Just Saying Yes' to all your invites, events and gatherings was a liberation of sorts, but, has it gone too far?

With the popularity of the idea of 'FOMO' (that's Fear of Missing Out), saying yes to everything seems to be fast becoming the norm for all of us, companies are even catching onto the phrase and I've even had emails announcing that to avoid 'FOMO' I need to shop their sale, but where does it stop?

Just saying yes can be a bit of a disaster for me personally. I find myself running on empty sometimes with appointments, meet ups, activities I can't fully afford, lunch dates, play dates, couple dates, suggesting dates and then it's bed time and I feel like I've not stopped running since I woke up 16 hours earlier... meanwhile, my book that I've only managed to get 15 pages into is sat on the side whispering "book neglect" at me since I've not touched it in a week (disclaimer, I don't actually hear voices) and I just feel sad.

It actually didn't even hit home just how miserable I was making myself until I was talking to a friend who had three social gatherings to attend in a week and had just had to pay for an emergency repair and couldn't afford to go out, "Just Say No!" I advised and shit hit the fan my friend became animated, "I can't, I've said I'll go and they're expecting me to bring drinks and......."
That right there was the moment, just like when Bridget Jones realised that if she didn't shape up she would die alone eaten by Alsatians, I realised that if I didn't want to end up burnt out, lying on my bed crying that I'd not had a moment alone to read or think in the last 25 years, I needed to change my life mantra.


So this year I've decided I'm not going to try and lose weight (fruitless, I love food), Spend less (pointless, I've been saving all my pennies for holidays anyway), read more classics (I could... buuuuuttt I love my thrillers too much) or become a better me (I'll do for now). No, this year I've decided that I'm going to shun all of it and become more selfish, yes SELFISH, because being everything to everyone is exhausting! There, I've said it. Sometimes I don't want to go out, I don't want to get dressed and be polite, I just want to sit on my sofa and just be.

This year will be the year I learn to Just Say No.

If you enjoyed this post, why not try Are We All Terrified of Our Own Thoughts and, as always, if you're a big yes person and saying yes is what keeps you rolling, then keep it up! We are all different and we need different things to recharge our batteries but for me, finally saying no is a liberation.

Happy New Year,

Rosy xx
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  1. I love this and I have to agree with you, selfish is the way forward people always chuck it back in ur face anyway. Worry bout yourself before anyone else. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! Happy New Year to you and your family!! Dominica from www.its-dominica.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. I totally agree with you!!
    I should learn to say no..

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  3. For me, the FOMO has always been a little about peer pressure and not about spontaneity, to be honest. It's like, people are just making excuses on why you shouldn't say no.

    Anyway, sometimes, we need to spoil ourselves a little. So I am all for saying no, especially if you're not comfortable anymore. Kudos to you, and good luck! Happy New Year!


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    1. I agree, FOMO is hardcore peer pressure!

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  4. Totally agree with you here. I´m a total introvert and despite loving hanging out with my friends I need time alone! But with so much going on around us all the time, FOMO also gets very real for me. I think it´s important to have the right balance of yes & no and therefore we should all learn that missing out and saying no sometimes is okay!
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    1. I'm definitely intoverted, sometimes you just need to be alone!

      Rosy xx

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  5. Love this! I've always had trouble saying no as well. It really brings you down eventually!

    Caitlin, Beauty & Colour

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    1. It's definitely an energy killer.

      Rosy xx

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  6. The word no is really important. Sometimes I think even I use it too often :)
    Happy New Year!
    xx Rena
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  7. I'm an introvert, so I always regret it when I accept an invite to do something. Losing weight is my goal in 2017. So far, so good...but I've been sick with no appetite. Not the best way to accomplish that goal!

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    1. No, being sick is never a good way to get to a goal weight at all! Hope you're feeling better, good luck for 2017

      Rosy xx

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  8. Such a great read! I don’t really experience fomo, but I’ve definitely seen the toll it takes on some people who are trying to do everything. It’s more important to take time out for yourself. Have an amazing year!

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    1. It can be such a pull for me. Hope you have a great year too :)

      Rosy xx

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  9. Interesting post. I agree with you. All the best for 2017 beauty
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  10. I totally appreciate where you're coming from. I also feel as though 'saying yes' was has been a really popular concept for the past couple of years, but now the tables seem to be turning as people start to feel overstretched. Wishing you a ton of good luck for your New Year goal, and here's hoping you have plenty more time to sit, relax and read :)

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  11. I couldn't agree more with this post!
    My brother has such a big FOMO with things. He will say yes to every single event he is invited too, and he is currently laying in bed ill from pushing himself so far this Christmas!

    Saying no is a good thing, especially if it means your able to relax, feel calm and have better outlooks on things. The 'say yes' factor has such a big connection to Zoella I agree, although not sure she follows her own advice on that one!

    Have a lovely day! xxx

    Francesca xx
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    1. I definitely think the time has come to stat saying no, It can't be good for us all pushing ourselves all the time, I hope your brother is feeling better now!

      Rosy xx

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  12. Totally agree with you. There are days I would like to go out and get wild but there also days I just like to sit on my couch with potato chips and watch netflix on my androidTV :)

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    1. Exactly, life is a delicate balance :)

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  13. I can relate to your post so well! I've been blogging actively for four years now and while I has this FOMO symptons I would say, I too walked the path that you did. Only later that I realised social gatherings hardly help when it is our work that we want to promote and not ourselves. Having said that I say No to many things that I don't feel like doing! That saves me so much time, makes me feel honest and allows me to concentrate and prioritise things that needs to be done. I wish you all the best!

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    1. I think, for me, alone time to read and just relax is what keeps me feeling sane and grounded.

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  14. I super love this post Rosy, because I did the same thing a couple of years ago! I've felt so much better! I would do and do and do. Some of it would be appreciated. Sometimes not. So now, I just do what works for me. Nothing less. Nothing more. You have to be that way or else you will get run down. Everyone is with you when you're UP, but if you go DOWN you will find how little people care. So good for you!
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    1. I agree, I discovered a long time ago which people were only around for the highs and not the lows, life really is good at dealing out lessons.

      Rosy xx

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  15. I totally agree with you! Thanks for sharing this wonderful post!

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  16. I absolutely agree!!! I sooooo have to learn to say NO!!! My tolerance is too high...
    Thanks for sharing.

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  17. I fully agree! Lovely blogpost babe.

    X Merel
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  18. Ace post! funny, I was just talking to a blogger friend about this the other day, and your post is spot on. but, I have learnt to say "NO!" awhile back, to be honest my professional schedule is already busy and chaotic it's really a miracle that I still blog, haha.
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    1. Haha, it all seriously gets too much sometimes doesn't it.

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  19. This is a great goal for the new year - wishing you all the best for 2017!

    Miriam
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  20. Great post!! As someone who says no a lot I always feel guilty but your post makes me realise that it shouldn't and it's ok to say no and do what makes me feel good :) xx

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    1. Exactly, looking after your own needs is just as important as looking after anyone else :)

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  21. Love this post... so funny!
    xx Leah

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  22. Awwww just what I needed to hear. Saying yes can almost become an addiction, but what is the point of doing so much if it forces us to miss out on the important things (like baby cuddles <3) and completely exhausts us! Thanks for this.

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  23. Great read!! I'm aiming to do more of this in 2017 too.

    Happy new year lovely!

    Alya | MoorizZLA xxx

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  24. Happy New Year to you!! Very nice and honest post, so thought-provoking, thank you!! I thing I need to say NO more often in my life to make it easier :)

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    1. Happy New Year to you too, I hope you had a great new year.

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  25. Cheers to a 2017 where the word "No!" rules! ;) I hear you and we should try to take a step back and be a bit selfish, without the FOMO... easy to say, hard to do! Happy New Year to you! xo

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    1. It's definitely worth a try though :)

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  26. I do think people get caught up in the trap of keeping up appearances! Self interest and self care need to be a priority - if you don't care for yourself can you really rely on others to do it for you? Happy New Year - and may the year of the 'No' be a good one!!

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    1. It's so easy to do isn't it, getting caught up in all the things you think you should be doing when in reality, you don't need to be doing them!

      Rosy xx

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  27. It's very important to know, how to say "no".

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  28. I've been saying no for a while... and have a few friends that have asked me to teach them how to !
    One thing I always do when I say no is I don't explain why, because you don't have to.
    Good for you for taking that decision.

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    1. I'm definitely an explainer, I wont manage to say no without a reason to follow.

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  29. Loved this blog post, thanks for sharing.

    Patricia Stelmach // Patricia

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  30. Totally agree ,Its very important to have your limits and not go along with everything just cause you don't want to miss out .Great post thank you for sharing

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  31. I have had to say "no" too this year and by doing that, I said "yes" to myself. It's important to make time for oneself because only then one is able to be there to give to others.

    ANOUK

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    1. Exactly, take care of yourself and the rest will follow seamlessly :)

      Rosy xx

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  32. Totally relate to this post. I am trying to save money this year too! Good luck with it <3

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  33. I don't think you're being selfish, Rosy. We can never please everyone. I'm learning that myself as well. It can be really hard to say "no" to people at times but it's not sensible for us to drain ourselves to please others. It's not sustainable at all! :) Thanks for sharing this lovely post with us!

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    1. Thank you so much, it really isn't a good way to live our lives.

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  34. This can be so important. I think we all need to realize that we can't be everything for every person. Saying no is not selfish, but important to yourself!!
    I started saying it more once I retired, and I think it gets easier!
    It's like that saying---everything in moderation. Both the "nos" & the "yeses"!
    Happy 2017!!
    jodie
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    1. Exactly this, we really have to make sure we look after ourselves too sometimes :)

      Rosy xx

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  35. I agree with this post 100%! Saying yes can be the easier option but it really does pay to say no sometimes - you have to put yourself first after all.

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    1. I find it easy to say no if its done in a polite way and most importantly, truthful. So I'll say I'm too tired if I'm too tired :)

      Rosy xx

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  36. I completely agree! I think we put way to much pressure on ourselves to be everything for everyone and it drains us
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  37. Loved this post and totally agree with it! Yes, to saying no! xx

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  38. Thanks for sharing

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  39. Lovely post!
    Happy New Year!
    Gil Zetbase
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  40. I couldn't agree more, saying "No" is hard, but we must learn to start to love ourselves better...

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    1. Definitely, it's so important to look after yourself :)

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  41. Love your writing...
    So beautiful.
    xx
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  42. Love this and couldn't agree me. Be a no woman! I'm gonna try and do some more of this in 2017 too.

    katie xx lacoconoire.com

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    1. That's a good phrase, a no woman... my new life motto :)

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  43. I totally agree with you!Happy New Year! Wish you all the best! xx

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  44. I adore this post, this was something I talked about on my own blog recently too. We need to remember that saying Yes to everything isn't always best, especially when we don't actually even WANT to say yes! Good for you for taking a stand!

    Musings & More

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    1. Yey, I'm so glad more people are in on this too, make 2017 the year of the 'no'.

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  45. It's a healthy egoism to say 'No' when it's needed. Hopefully you will not close yourself for an amazing opportunity when it comes! <3 Even if it's scary! Iga x

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    1. I definitely wont, but mostly I'd prefer to stay home :)

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  46. I am sich and tired of the whole 'FOMO' culture and like you, I am starting to say a big fat no. It's my life and I'll do things when and how I want it to be. Maybe I'm just slowly turning into an old, cranky hag. LOL!

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    1. Yes to this! I'm getting old and cranky too and it suits me fine haha.

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  47. A very nice blog, congratulations for your work!!!kiss 👌👌👌💚💚💚

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  48. Totally agree babe! It's hard to say NO, but this can be really important!!!
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  49. this is such a good attitude to have! love it

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  50. Great read! Sometimes it really is okay to say 'no'. I know that saying 'yes' can be the easier option but who does it really benefit? Happy New Year! x

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    1. Exactly, sometimes staying home and doing your own thing is best all round.

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  51. This is such a good idea. I need to have a selfish year too!

    Corinne x
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  52. I definitely agree about the power of saying no! While saying yes can open many opportunities and doors, it also can easily rob us of time, joy and quality relationships. First of all, FOMO robs us of the choice. It's like, we HAVE TO be somewhere to be in the loop or MUST do something to keep riding the wave. I have discovered in 2016 that simply saying no saved me so much headache and heartache. I am no longer manipulated by you have to shop here, go there, read this. It's amazing to have a choice and be fully responsible for it. While I don't like the word 'selfish', I get your point babe, it's simply about focusing on what YOU want and need which, ultimately, a great thing.
    Your well-being, your growth, your relationships, your decisions are in your control <3
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    1. I'm so glad you've already been able to strt saying no for yourself more often, I hope it helped 2016 be a good year for you and let's all hope that 2017 can be a great year for all of us.

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  53. I love this! Just like you I tried to make 'Say yes' my life motto, mostly because Zoella inspired me. And although I love that motto is really important to be selfish sometimes and just say no to things. And I get your classics situations - I'd love to read more classics but then there is Nicholas Sparks. Oh well. xx

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  54. I agree with this, thanks for sharing!

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  55. have a nice start of the week!

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  56. I totally agree, sometimes we need to say no sometimes

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  57. such a good read, really like the take on this. best wishes on the new year
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  58. I like this new mantra. It definitely puts yourself first. Sometimes it's best to be a bit more selfish because we have to think of ourselves and our own needs. Being a people pleaser and always saying yes to everything may bring others happiness or help reduce FOMO, but won't necessarily guarantee our own happiness. Thanks for sharing this awesome post!

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    1. Thank you, I feel exactly that way, people pleasing can't be healthy in the longrun.

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  59. Is this the point where I just write: Great and leve my blog link?
    Just kidding, I realized something similar a few years ago, after I had my daughter. i was trying to get in shape, become a domestic godess, pass an important exam, stay active and engaged in my relationship and raise a newborn. On barely any sleep, but with a perfect red lip. Not for long, I can assure you, I soon realized that this would not make me happy. Sayin no can be liberating, just like saying yes can help you overcome social anxiety. i guess we need to really learn to listen to our bodies and soul to find out if yes or no is the word of the moment.


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    1. I definitely think it's all gone a bit far with the whole 'say yes' thing because too much pressure can actually make us feel pretty crappy after a while.

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  60. You know what, I totally agree with you! And I am not saying this just to leave a "nice" comment but I actually do agree with you. I am a bit of an introvert so saying yes to everything has never appealed to me. I get tired of people and I get tired of too many things happening at the same time. I like to be alone, to be by myself, doing things I enjoy doing on my own (reading while sipping a cup of tea and eating sweets or binge watching kpop videos on youtube, etc.). Sometimes (or all the time!) you just have to think of nothing but yourself because at the end of the day, you only have one you. :)

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  61. Girl I love this post and think that the power of saying no is definitely as important as the power of saying yes! It's so important to know how far you can stretch yourself, and that sometimes by saying yes to everything isn't always the way forward, you'll overwork yourself and not fully appreciate what's going on around you. My goal this year is to say no more and be more selective!

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  62. I totally agree with just say no over just say yes - I guess it depends on the type of person you are but I often find myself saying yes to everything even things I don't want to do and then like you I just find myself running on empty! Definitely need to learn to say no more this year!
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  63. I totally agree with you. You can't always says yes to things, do things that will bring you joy.
    This is a great post!

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  64. Very good resolution for the new year, I also have to be more assertive.

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  65. This is so unbelievably important! I say yes to doing things I don't want to do all the time. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying no, if it means it is going to bring you peace of mine. Your happiness is the most important thing.

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  66. Well done dear! Learning to say no can be hard, but is so so important! I hope it will be a good year for you!

    Xx,

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  67. Yes, I agree! There are times when NO is the best answer.
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  68. I love this idea!
    I always feel like I'm pressured into saying yes to doing things even though I know all I want to do is say no...it's an awful feeling.

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  69. I've been saying 'yes' for far too long, so it's definitely time for me to take some time for myself and say no every now and then

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  70. What a great post my dear! I am such a YES person but since I have incorporated the necessary NOs into my daily life, I got precious time for myself, to do things for me, and to spend more time with people who I really enjoy being with! Here's to more NO :) Happy 2017!
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  71. Great post dear!

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  72. This is a genuinely great post. I think we should all be allowed to have "selfish" moments. Having time to yourself is healthy, as is saying "no."

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  73. omg I know what you mean! I totally need to detox
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  74. I think you have to have time to be selfish sometimes rather than pleasing others all the time. Life is too short to be anything other than happy, so why not prioritise your own happiness! Good luck!
    Jaz xoxo
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  75. This is such an interesting post. Sometimes we really need to be able to say NO.
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  76. That's great babe! You do you! After trying to follow resolutions for years, I've come to the point that if I want to change, I need to make them long-term lifestyle changes. That means doing things in moderation. If I want some cake, I won't deny myself. I'll eat, but then I'll eat well and work out other days too. It's all about moderation ;)

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  77. Totally agree , life is too short to make other people happy . Hope 2017 will be a great year with enough time to recharge your batteries too.

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  78. I totally agree hun, I think becoming selfish is a good thing because you NEED to care of you and make yoourself happy and in return will make others happy too :) xx

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  79. I definitely agree with you girl. FOMO seems a little people pleasing and following the crowd and saying no will benefit me more! Great post dear!

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  80. What a great idea! I'm really bad at saying no so will try and incorporate this into my resolutions!
    Have a lovely day :)
    Rosanna x
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  81. nice post dear
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  82. I sorta love this- it's empowering! And also realistic. Great post, lady!

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  83. I really like your goal for 2017, dear, being selfish sounds healthy, the same is with saying no, personally I'm still learing to be more assertive.

    Have a lovely evening dear,
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    1. I hope it goes well for you lovely :)

      Rosy xx

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  84. So funny reading this as my new years resolution is to say yes, but actually stick to it. Too often I say yes but then change my mind at the last minute, which i think looks a lot worse than just saying no in the first place xx

    Frances Kayleigh | Beauty Fashion Lifestyle

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  85. Another refreshing post, it is true- and exhausting, we can not be everything to everyone one, let alone our best selves all of the time. We must learn to be kind to ourselves and realistic, while attaining reasonable set goals! Yes to NO! :)
    xx, Elle
    http://www.theellediaries.com/blog/

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